I know the concept of people being upset at you saying "yes" seems backwards. The thing is people can be counting on you to say no to others in order to be there for them. Should you always be there for your friends? Yes, absolutely but there are different ways to go about being there for someone.
To me what is important and valid is your self discovery and your ability to care for yourself. There are stages in life where we want to say no to things we KNOW will be beneficial for us. It is easy to push to the side things we don't see as a priority. But we should always see ourselves as a priority.
Will saying yes to one social event change the trajectory of your life? Most likely not. But there comes a stage where age starts to affect our answers to yes or no questions and at those points, you reminisce. Will you remember that one specific night out? I would say not, but what we do remember is being at a time in life where we had the ability to say yes and yet we still remained a "no".
It is absolutely okay to be throwing out no's left and right if that is better for you. What isn't right is to feel guilty for constantly saying yes. You don't owe an explanation to anyone as long as you're making yourself a priority.
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