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Personality Talk

I know most girls are obsessed with the concept of zodiacs and horoscopes. Some of us are dillerberate in our connections based on personality tests; what is your enneagram number?? I have even been involved in long winded, post night out conversations where we all deep dive into our Myers Briggs. Don't get me wrong I love, love, love these tests. Period. But. Should we start by taking a deeper dive into the OG personalities?

One thing that is for certain to have been thrown around for decades is extroverts vs. introverts. When in doubt, someone always knows what you're referring to and it is generally easy to place ourselves amoung the two. 

But you guys. What if there was more. 

There are probably 4 different personalities as far as I can tell. Extroverted Extroverts, Extroverted Introverts, Introverted Extroverts, and Introverted Introverts. While they may have sounded repetitive, they are all very different things. 

I can break it down for you real quick. 

Extroverted extroverts are the people who crave human interaction. They are going to be the loudest, most captivating, energetic personality in the room. Not only are they getting their full charge from social life, they do not need alone time. Life for an extroverted extrovert means a social job, a social family, and the expectation for someone to always tag along.

Extroverted introverts are just a bit different. An extroverted introvert is going to be the person in your life who loves and flourishes in their alone time, they can fully recharge in their own company. But they also maintain a very healthy social life due to their drive. They are adaptable in social settings, and tend to be very outspoken with the right groups of people. They have a switch, and are able to turn it on and off where they see it most fit. 

Introverted Introverts are going to be much more comfortable in their own space as their focus is on their internal thoughts rather than their external relations. This may be the person in your life who you would characterize as being more reserved, or less willing to open up. 

Introverted extroverts wrap up our four personality types. An introverted extrovert is going to be your most balanced friend. They may be on the shier side to start a conversation, but are very happy to partake in one. While socially adaptive, they can hold qualities like modesty. 

I would classify myself as an extroverted extrovert, but sometimes I lean to be an extroverted introvert. By this I just mean to explain that I am a people person through and through, I love to talk, I am comfortable in social settings, and I get lots of energy from surrounding myself with other people. In the same breath, my social battery CAN get drained depending on how the rest of my life is rotating. In a comfortable crowd and a positive time, there's a good chance I will make myself known in a crowd.

When I spend lots of time with people, I need my own space to charge up a bit. An extroverted introvert would get most of their energy from alone time whereas mine is needed only in situational spurts. 

Lately I have been trying to take the initiative to better understand how I prefer to socialize. Learning where I'm obtaining energy, can in turn maximize my ability to energized and help me to be happier with how I'm are spending your time.

But who's to tell you, when every label is just a glorified personality test!!

How Do I Grow Up?

Having my graduation day just months out makes my now self very on edge. Even the days that I feel on top of things, the future unknown future looms over me. 

So how do I prepare myself for the real world?

I have a few tips that most people entering the workforce should keep in mind.

1.) Not Everyone is The Same

        Something I find constantly having to remind myself is that my friends and I are not the same. We come from different backgrounds, have different majors, and different work experience. Comparing myself to my friends only puts me behind. Knowing someone who has a job already for post grad, just means they're having a different experience than you are. 

2.) The Present Matters Most

        I find myself very worried over what the future holds. Sometimes it clouds the kinds of opportunities and fun I am having in the moment. Every now and then I think about how every step cannot just be planned out and the best thing you can do for yourself is enjoy the process.

3.) Rejection is Learning

        I have had many friends who have already been to numerous interviews and are let down by rejection. While rejection can sting, it is only bringing you closer to a better path. 

I am always asking, "how do I grow up?". There is no one specific way to go through life and that includes post grad plans. If you are having a similar experience, give yourself some grace. I know sometimes that's all I need to get through another day. 

Not Feeling Guilty For Always Saying Yes

 I know the concept of people being upset at you saying "yes" seems backwards. The thing is people can be counting on you to say no to others in order to be there for them. Should you always be there for your friends? Yes, absolutely but there are different ways to go about being there for someone. 

To me what is important and valid is your self discovery and your ability to care for yourself. There are stages in life where we want to say no to things we KNOW will be beneficial for us. It is easy to push to the side things we don't see as a priority. But we should always see ourselves as a priority. 

Will saying yes to one social event change the trajectory of your life? Most likely not. But there comes a stage where age starts to affect our answers to yes or no questions and at those points, you reminisce. Will you remember that one specific night out? I would say not, but what we do remember is being at a time in life where we had the ability to say yes and yet we still remained a "no".

It is absolutely okay to be throwing out no's left and right if that is better for you. What isn't right is to feel guilty for constantly saying yes. You don't owe an explanation to anyone as long as you're making yourself a priority. 

Things to bring to the Girly Gameday

Sometimes game days can be a lot. Like I've said previously, a game day in South Carolina is almost a week long event and so when your week is already crazy you may have to settle in for a game day. 

One of my favorite ways to settle in is a dip and wine night. Wine nights can happen on any day though so how can it be made more fun? Themed drinks. 

I'm sure many people have seen themed drinks on TikTok where a group gets together and each person is in charge of many one round of drinks. 

Having each person in charge of a round takes the pressure off the host, gets people excited, and gets everyone involved. If you're in charge of a round of drinks and you want to try each of them, you're going to show up on time.

What I love the most about this idea is that it could be as creative or dull as you would like but having a theme goes beyond in showing how deep a friendship can actually run. What a fun way to spend a saturday with the girlfriends. 

Get bartending!

To Rent or To Buy?

 In the last few weeks. I've attended many events with my friends. Some sorority functions, some football games, and a few birthday parties. For every event you need an outfit and while repeating is acceptable, it is less fun!

Through the different fits I have seen my friends in this month, some of them were immediately the type of item that I must know where it came from. When asking my friends the question of "where can I buy that?", there were some common themes. My friends have been renting their clothes with monthly subscriptions.

I know this may not be brand new news for a lot of people, but I personally haven't seen this many rented items EVER. 

There are a few different places to rent from and some may suit you better depending on your vibe.

1.) Rent the Runway

        Rent 5+ items each month, buy what you love and return what you don't want.

2.) Nuuly

        Rent 6 items each month. Rent or thrift all on their site.

3.) Fashion Pass

        Rent and swap as many outfits as you want in a month.

4.) StitchFix

        Personalized finds with a stylist to pick 5 items for you each month.

I personally have not gone down the renters rabbit hole, but with a continuously event packed year, I think I may have to start shopping. Join me?

A Saturday in South Carolina

When I first decided to go away to college, I needed a big school; lots of people, lots of diversity, and lots of football. Growing up in Texas, football was the thing to watch. Fridays and saturdays were often surrounded by the pregame, the game, and the game after that. 

When I got to South Carolina I thought I would have to describe to people what a high school football game in Texas looked like. Needless to say, there was no explaining to be done.

Saturday in South Carolina is everything I grew up with and more. You wake up and you make sure every person you pass is greeted with a "Happy Gameday". You spend approximately 2 hours getting ready, even if the heat is going to ruin your hair, and you listen to sandstorm to practice for the day.

A gameday in South Carolina can be the only thing you look forward to all week. Whether you're in Williams Brice Stadium, watching at the Salty Nut Cafe, or working your butt off as a server for the customers that come in to view the game, Saturday is about football. And while it is just a silly sport of men throwing a ball and occasionally tackling other men, it is the most exciting thing to be apart of.

In the last couple of weeks I've used a dirty dish rag, a paper napkin, and a rally towel to participate in the University of South Carolina's gameday jam- Sandstorm. No matter where you end up in the city of Columbia, Saturday's in South Carolina will always be a gameday.

New State, Same Me

Going to college out of state is both exciting and terrifying. It is hard to wrap your mind around moving to a new state without your family, friends, dogs, and local spots you've grown to love. Younger me could never fathom the thought of calling a new place my home. 

Years later and I would 100% classify South Carolina as my home and can't even imagine a world where I don't live here.

I was so scared to go to school out of state but so eager to meet new people and get a chance to start over completely new. Being away from my family, who I am so close to, was one of the most difficult adjustments for me. I was extremely dependent on my relationship with my sister coming into college. Over the first few months, I started to gain my own independence and find my footing. 

Over the last few years, I have stopped feeling homesickness, become my own person, and still remained so close with my family and the city of Houston. I wish I could tell my 18-year-old self how proud I am to have taken a risk but it has completely paid off.

One of the ways that this place has begun to feel like home is because of the people and the memories it holds. I owe so much to Columbia, SC because of what I have experienced in this city.

The people make the place.

Advice to My 18 Year Old Self

As we journey through life, we typically look back and contemplate the advice we would give our younger selves. In this case, I want to look back just one year, to my 18-year-old self. There aren't monumental things I have learned in the past year but there are things that I now know are important to prioritize. Being a senior in college, I realize the time that we have is always limited and you will not be in the same place forever. I am deeply saddened to know that college is not the rest of my life and because of that realization, there are some things I would have told my freshman year self.

1.) Embrace Failure and Learn From It

Mistakes happen. Mistakes happen. Mistakes happen. Learn from all of them. I can't express enough how badly I wish I could tell my younger self that the failure doesn't matter and she won't remember it in the coming years. It's college, sometimes you fail a test, have a bit too much to drink, or let a friend down. Take the experience and learn from it but do not give it too much value.

2.) Live in the Present Moment

It IS important to plan for the future, but don't miss the present. Cherish every experience, all relationships - new and old-, and every opportunity that comes your way. Life is just a collection of moments and it is in those moments where we are truly happy.

3.) Prioritize Your Own Mental and Physical Well-Being

It is really easy to forget that we are the most important people in our lives. When we're younger, we usually lean into the whole selfish parts of our character, but once we hit college it changes a bit. New friends and new places make it seem like you have to say yes to everything, and a lot of times that's to please others. What is important to remember is that you can't even be your best self for someone if you aren't prioritising your health. Regularly eating, moving, sleeping, and taking a second alone can be all you need.

4.) Nurture relationships

Surround yourself constantly with positive influences. It is these years where your relationships will begin to shape the rest of your life. It is not about the quantity of relationships, but the quality. Treat everyone like you want to be treated and absolutely say yes to meeting new people.

If I could have a conversation with my 18-year-old self, I would share all of these things with them. I want to squeeze her and tell her to embrace the challenges, celebrate the victories, and never stop growing.

Must Haves In Your Closet This Fall

Looking to elevate your fits this fall? The girls have been trying to figure this one out and I have a couple recommendations to amp up your autumn wardrobe. 

While it still feels like summer here in South Carolina, we are approaching the first day of Fall; and personally, I am excited to dress like it's 60 degrees outside even if it's not. 

What To Wear

There are a few things that will trend this fall 2023 and it is better to stay ahead of the curve.

1.) Low rise midi skirt

That's right. I know that the low rise trend upsets some people but to be totally honest, it's really nice being able to breathe. While low rise mini skirts were a trend of the summer, having a fun print midi will go great with your fall wardrobe. Denim, cargo, grandma print paisley, whatever you decide to go with, pair it with a light sweater, short sleeve graphic tee, or little vest. Chillier in your area than mine? Throw on a pair of tights! The options for pairing are endless, but you'll be in good hands with a few low rise midis in your closet. 

2.) Vests

Previous years and trends have involved puffer vests or sweater vests. While these are both still totally fine to wear this fall, we have a newer vest in town. Denim vests and leather vests, and vintage vests are IN! These are such an easy layering piece that can amp up your plain long sleeve, or even to still stay cool in a short sleeve. There are definitely ways for these to be worn outside of the trend, but when paired correctly, the compliments will be never ending.

3.) Sling-back Mules

It's sometimes hard to find something in your closest that is fitting for the fall that lies somewhere in between sneakers and boots. These are both good options for fall but there may be a better option. Sling-back mules are on the come up and these are the perfect pairing for nice pair of cargos, a cute skirt, or a baggy pair of denim. The great thing about these is socks are optional! Not open-toed but not your shoe for the cold of winter. 

These are just a few of the pieces that will make a difference in your fall wardrobe. Each of them are very versatile, able to be dressed up or down, and overall really freaking cute.

Happy shopping!

Karma Is Your Girl Friends

In every stage of life as a woman, you have different friends by your side to support you. Growing up, it's the friends you play with on the playground and beg your parents to go home with on Monday's. In middle school, it's the friends whose house you sleep at every night, where you research boybands and learn your first cuss words. In high school, it's the girls you have your first sip of alcohol with and the ones who you brag to about the cute boy in your class asking you for help with algebra.

In college, I feel like there is no precedent for the type of friends you will have. 

There are party friends, there are class friends, there are weekend friends, there are roommates, and there are the select few who will check every box. Those are the few that will be standing beside you on your wedding day.

In the trusty Taylor Swift song, Karma, she sings "Karma is my boyfriend," and she may have been rewarded with a man, but I think that sometimes karma comes in the form of a friendship. 

Just to be clear here, I am not using karma in a negative connotation and I don't think Taylor was either.

Some friendships come along as a result of what you have previously done and your intentions in doing it. For me specifically, I grew up with friendships that I loved dearly. Girls that meant the world to me. But as time rolled out, I realized that our friendships were coming to an end. It was time I got my turn in having the sort of friendships you see in the movies. As I moved on to the next stage of my life, I was hoping for karma to bring some new women into my life. 

I knew that the friendships I had experienced growing up were lessons, sometimes obstacles, and often just temporary. It is the friendships I have now that allow me to realize that they are my karma.

Without being too gushy, the women I now surround myself with are supportive, understanding, compassionate, and the reasons for my own positive outlook on life. 

The important part to remember is that even if you are not in a stage surrounded by good friends now, if YOU are a good friend, you will be rewarded.

How to Get Your Plans Out of The Groupchat

 Sometimes there's that one thing that you and your girlfriends want to get up to; maybe a weekend trip, a wine night, that Mt. Joy concert, but the plans just always seem to fall through. It's super normal to have trouble making your ideas come to life, you may just need a kick start in the right direction.

Here's a few tips to get your plans out of that group chat and into that cool new restaurant on 6th Street.

Save up!

One of the leading reasons plans fall through typically has to do with someone saying "I just don't have the money for that right now." This happens and that's completely fine to miss a few activities here and there due to budgeting. What you don't want to happen is to have your friends out making memories that you will hear about later on, and the only thing that stopped you from attending was money that you ended up using on a pair of jeans you didn't really need. 

Take initiative.

If you know that your friends are typically flakey, you take initiative in the planning. When someone says I want to go to the USC UNC football game in Charlotte, google Airbnbs in the area! You don't want your plans to get forgotten, so take charge. Share a google doc in the chat about car assignments, areas to stay in, and restaurants to check out.

Your friends will be grateful and excited. How are you going to miss the first gameday if you already committed to driving?

Have a schedule.

You know that you are a busy person and I am sure your friends are too. If need be, set aside one weekend a month to make sure that everyone is available to see each other. If you never schedule out your time, with friends being a priority, you won't just miraculously get to see them.

And lastly, don't ever stop planning these crazy trips in the chat. Just because you're getting older, does not mean you and your friendships don't deserve to continue growing and making memories. 

Send your friends a text right now!

Reasons Why Girl Math Just Works

Hey all! I am Amelia Schroeder, a fellow girl.

Welcome to my first blog post of many, many, many.

In this blog I will share about the life of a girly. From relationship advice, to what the girlies wear, to the logistics of girl math. If you are a young adult living your best girly life, this is the place to be.

Now I am no expert on the way all girls live, but from my 21 years of experience, I have a few insights on how to survive and thrive as a woman.

The truth is there are certain ways a woman does things that just do not typically apply to men. There are of course extenuating circumstances, but this blog IS for the girls.

I wanted to bring up the trending topic of what is girl math? How does it work? Does it only apply to women?

Girl Math

Girl Math is a newly coined term that surfaced the internet in July 2023 by a trio of radio hosts out in New Zealand. They had a female caller join in trying to justify a large purchase she had made. 

As women we try to justify almost all of our purchases to men, but if we understand the math, why does a man have to get it? The important and only way to define Girl Math is the way women think of and spend their money. Maybe it is a ironic rebuttal against the misogynistic view that women can't handle money- or maybe it's just true.

Girl Math has many rules so I will go over a few that I believe every girl should know.

        1.) If you're using cash, it's free

            I am sure we have all had times where the bank account was looking low and taking out your card to swipe, just wasn't the move. Dig through your purse!! Find a few floating bills? Maybe you have that fifty in there that you've been saving for the right time. If you are paying with paper money, newsflash, it's free.

        2.) Break Down your items by PPW (price per wear)

            Just bought a super cute new pair of free people cargo pants? Did they cost you $200? That literally doesn't matter because if they are your new favorite pants, and you wear them 20 times this year, the pants only actually cost you $10. Way more cost friendly than buying the cheap stuff from Shein that you only wear once.

        3.) If you return an item to the store, you're profiting

            Did you decide to buy that bathing suit for the 4th of July and when you got home you found that ole faithful white swimmy that's so flattering? Truly one of the best feelings when you head back to the store to return your suit and are gifted $40 that you now get to use on something else.

        4.) If urban outfitters is having a sale, and you don't purchase something, you are losing money

            When you get the email notification that your favorite store is having a sale, you MUST buy something. This is because if you don't buy it on sale, you are still going to want it at full price. If you buy it at full price, you are wasting money that could've been used for, not one, but TWO, skirts. 

        5.) If you get your nails done for an event, you're actually saving money by not making the organization redo the event

            Let's say you have a sorority formal to attend and you really want to get your nails done. To get them done could be up to $80. When you are at the event, you take photos of you and your friends hugging and therefore, your nails are in every photo. If you had gone to the function with bare nails, the pictures would have been disappointing, and in turn, you would have to ask the sorority to hold the event again so that you could get better photos. Because of this, you are actually saving everyone tons of money because the event was thousands of dollars, and your nails were only $80.

Girl math isn't complicated, but it can take practice. Maybe reading this gave you the clarity that you're richer than you thought! Start using Girl Math in your day to day, and don't let a man tell you that's not how finances works.

Now hurry and go shop that sale before you start losing money.